Current location:International Iterations news portal > health
I'm a psychologist
International Iterations news portal2024-04-26 17:27:34【health】9People have gathered around
IntroductionA psychologist has revealed the hidden ways that an abusive partner may be manipulating you into sta
A psychologist has revealed the hidden ways that an abusive partner may be manipulating you into staying with them.
Dr Julie Smith, a clinical psychologist with a private practice in Hampshire, took to her TikTok to address those who may be stuck in an unhealthy relationship.
She often speaks about mental health online, with videos on how to build your confidence, why you may be procrastinating, and the signs that you might have anxiety.
In one clip, she talked about six key signs people should watch out for in their partners.
The expert started by saying that abusers will often try to draw your attention away from your friends and family to isolate you.
Dr Julie Smith, took to her TikTok to address those who may be stuck in an abusive relationship
'They remove any outside perspectives so theirs is the only narrative you get to hear, she said.
The medical professional added that they switch moods easily, often going from affectionate to aggressive.
This can lead to victims feeling confused about whether the relationship they're in is normal, healthy and good.
The next warning sign is if your partner makes you feel insecure and as though you cannot achieve anything without them.
'They chip away at your confidence and your own intelligence and your capacity to do things so you start to question whether you can even function without them,' Dr Smith explained.
Another red flag of a manipulative relationship is if they limit access to your money and monitor your spending.
'It makes it feel almost impossible to leave,' Dr Smith added.
The fifth sign of a controlling abuser is if they threaten to harm themselves or you. Dr Smith added that this can be a powerful way to trap victims and prevent them from leaving.
Dr Julie Smith said abusive partners may act charming if they feel like you're going to leave them
The clip has been viewed almost 600,000 times and has racked up hundreds of comments from users
The psychologist went on to reveal the sixth red flag, which is when the person you're in a relationship with starts making promises to change.
She added that they will only tend to do this if they feel threatened that their victim might leave them.
'The abuse is replaced with the charm and the love you saw at the beginning of the relationship, you want to believe it can get better, so you give it another go. But the cycle continues.'
She captioned the TikTok post: 'For those who find themselves wanting to leave a relationship and blaming themselves for finding it hard to break away, it’s never been as easy as you tell yourself it should be.
'If your partner is using any combination of these manipulations, you will be more isolated, vulnerable, and confused about how best to proceed.
'Not because there is anything wrong with you, but because that is the effect these behaviours have on most people.'
She added that finding a form of support is 'crucial' and said this might be a friend, trusted family member or professional.
The clip has been viewed almost 600,000 times and has racked up hundreds of comments from users.
One wrote: '[That]'s] why I divorced him! I’m free.'
Another added: 'This applies to abusive managers at work. They will isolate you, keep you so busy and prevent you looking for something better. Glad I resigned.'
'I lost my job and destroyed my career,' a third confessed. 'Please be confident and leave at the first spark of this manipulation.'
A fourth commented: ''Thank you so much for making me understand.'
- If you need to speak to somebody, you can call the Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge on 0808 2000 247 for free at any time.
Address of this article:http://www.videocameralive.com/tag/12gb/
Very good!(98)
Related articles
- Indonesia and Japan advance at U23 Asian Cup. South Korea out of contention for Paris Olympics
- China, Philippines Cement Ties in New Year
- Xi Focus: A Brief Timeline of Chinese President's COVID
- Xi Jinping Unanimously Elected Deputy to 14th NPC
- Turkish rail officials jailed for more than 108 years for crash that left 25 dead
- Chinese Vice Premier Stresses Need to Ensure Smooth Transition of COVID
- Xi Meets Chairman of Presidential Leadership Council of Yemen
- Xi Focus: Xi Addresses 2023 New Year Gathering of China's Top Political Advisory Body
- Legendary British musician teases appearance at Taylor Swift's Eras Tour during singer's London leg
- French companies to step up investment in China
Popular articles
Recommended
The Hollywood daughters raiding their mums' wardrobes... so who do you think wore it better?
Xi Calls on Economic Daily to Better Tell China's Economic Development Stories
Xi, Angolan President Exchange Congratulations on 40th Anniversary of Diplomatic Ties
French companies to step up investment in China
Frankie Capan III shoots 13
Xi Delivers Written Remarks at 15th China
Protein markers tied to chemotherapy success
Xi Calls for Fostering Closer China
Links
- A memorial opens on the site of a Nazi concentration camp for Roma after a pig farm was removed
- Unai Emery agrees Aston Villa contract extension until 2027
- NATO newcomer Finland is now a 'front
- Selena Gomez puts on a loved
- Heartbreaking pictures show 24
- Kylie Jenner flaunts her eye
- Emily Blunt gazes adoringly at husband John Krasinski as they grace the red carpet at star
- UEFA picks two video review referees at center of controversy for Euro 2024 duty
- Meg Bennett dead at 75 following cancer battle: Emmy
- Maya Rudolph chimes in on the 'nepo baby' conversation revealing her famous parents